It's time to give up....
Well, this is will be the one of those 'firsts' in my blog, i.e. the first list that I will put down in my blog. Should I feel very very excited....maybe.... yawn but I don't....because....god, I am too lazy to even find out why I am not feeling excited...on second thoughts, maybe that's the reason - I am not feeling excited, because I am too lazy to feel excited.
But then whatever, out of sheer laziness, or after days of prolonged debating with * ahem* myself, I have decided to give up the following, at least for now (this disclaimer is very important). This will of course add to another previous list which I had decided to give up long back - like outdoor games (as I was always unsuccessful in them), watching complicated English movies (as I never understood them), etc. Anyways, here goes:
1. I have decided to give up vehement, stubborn fights which ultimately become man vs. woman fights. As one of friend's friend once remarked, way back in 2001, that certain fights should stop, and they included 'man vs. woman fights' and 'Carmel school vs. St. Xavier’s school, durgapur' fights among many more.
The reason for this decision:
Well, for one, they lead nowhere, at least not when you are typing out long replies to someone else’s long replies, as both of us are convinced that we are right and the other one is wrong, and gradually the temper and ego comes in, and we never stop to understand the other's point of view. It becomes a 'debate', no longer a 'discussion'.
It is exasperating, and such fights only make me frustrated about the unseen gap between the sexes...honestly.
Second reason is, I seriously don't think there is anything to fight about, esp. when the topic turns to who is better, stronger, more logical, or anything like competition between the sexes...because frankly, in my opinion, these things cannot be determined...ever. There can be statistics, medical reports, studies...but ultimately what matters is the individual. Both sexes cannot do without each other, and are pretty similar in some ways and pretty dissimilar in some other ways, so what is needed here is more of complementing each other, and less of one-upmanship.
Thirdly...sheesh...I have started arguing again...no...let me end it here - I will give up going on answering others if I find that all that they are doing is trying to prove 'I am better than you as I am a man'.
2. I have decided to give up getting affected by comments aimed at me at other people's blogs, except when I choose to answer them:
Now this decision happened just now, when really I felt helpless. There were 3-4 anonymous commenters, and each one saying something different, and one of them told another commenters to stop listening to 'stupid' my name's comments. Now, how do you convince him that I am not stupid...given the fact that wikipedia's version of stupidity may differ from that of his own...and again differ from mine.
No, we must respect others' opinions and disagree to agree with them...or should it be agree to disagree with them? Ok, whatever, from now on, upbeat is the mood to go, my girl.
3. I have decided to give up trying to fit into clothes made for someone else - someone with a smaller waist than mine, with a better shoulder than mine, with anything different than mine....from now on, either I get clothes which are made for me, or I don't get them...or I get them made for me!!!
4. I have decided to give up fighting for the TV remote till the end of World Cup football...whenever that is:
The reason - isn't it obvious? When you can't win them....leave them....I mean wars and battles and fights.
5. I have decided to give up reading blogs/articles/books and watching movies which depress me, when I am already in a dumb mood, somewhat like when your lunch gets wet by rain water, and then you don't know whom to take out the anger on....yeah...somewhat like that.
6. I have finally decided to give up resistance to being branded - as a feminist, as a man-hater, as a lousy home maker, as a careerist, as a ...well...whatever...will go more into that later. But as of now, people can brand me anything they like, by people it includes, friends, not-friends, cousins, aunts, etc.
At least, there'll be less tension trying to explain.
7. I have decided to give up watching Ram Gopal Verma's movies:
The reason? Well, they get nowhere. They start off well, and the sets are very authentic, as well as the costume, etc., but the moment it comes to a story and the story being good enough for 1.5 to 2 hours....well, the less said, the better.
If I had been a guy, maybe I would have watched a few just to see a heroine in different stages of undress or passing off her undergarments as outdoor clothes but me being a straight woman, have no such intentions...on second thoughts, I never found other guys being much kicked about watching antara mali in 'those' types of clothes.
And no, I am not going to give up entertainment in the name of 'meaningful' cinema. Give me a 'Hum Hain Rahi Pyar ke' anytime compared to 'D' company.
Well, that's that...for the time being.
Anyone else has any other suggestions?
P.S. Just now I realized, that there's one more thing to give up:
8. I am going to give up trying to understand guys...well...yeah...honestly. I have been confused, irritated, angry and frustrated, and ultimately I have realized that it is no use trying to understand men at all...they are enigmas!!! So, peace!!!
But then whatever, out of sheer laziness, or after days of prolonged debating with * ahem* myself, I have decided to give up the following, at least for now (this disclaimer is very important). This will of course add to another previous list which I had decided to give up long back - like outdoor games (as I was always unsuccessful in them), watching complicated English movies (as I never understood them), etc. Anyways, here goes:
1. I have decided to give up vehement, stubborn fights which ultimately become man vs. woman fights. As one of friend's friend once remarked, way back in 2001, that certain fights should stop, and they included 'man vs. woman fights' and 'Carmel school vs. St. Xavier’s school, durgapur' fights among many more.
The reason for this decision:
Well, for one, they lead nowhere, at least not when you are typing out long replies to someone else’s long replies, as both of us are convinced that we are right and the other one is wrong, and gradually the temper and ego comes in, and we never stop to understand the other's point of view. It becomes a 'debate', no longer a 'discussion'.
It is exasperating, and such fights only make me frustrated about the unseen gap between the sexes...honestly.
Second reason is, I seriously don't think there is anything to fight about, esp. when the topic turns to who is better, stronger, more logical, or anything like competition between the sexes...because frankly, in my opinion, these things cannot be determined...ever. There can be statistics, medical reports, studies...but ultimately what matters is the individual. Both sexes cannot do without each other, and are pretty similar in some ways and pretty dissimilar in some other ways, so what is needed here is more of complementing each other, and less of one-upmanship.
Thirdly...sheesh...I have started arguing again...no...let me end it here - I will give up going on answering others if I find that all that they are doing is trying to prove 'I am better than you as I am a man'.
2. I have decided to give up getting affected by comments aimed at me at other people's blogs, except when I choose to answer them:
Now this decision happened just now, when really I felt helpless. There were 3-4 anonymous commenters, and each one saying something different, and one of them told another commenters to stop listening to 'stupid' my name's comments. Now, how do you convince him that I am not stupid...given the fact that wikipedia's version of stupidity may differ from that of his own...and again differ from mine.
No, we must respect others' opinions and disagree to agree with them...or should it be agree to disagree with them? Ok, whatever, from now on, upbeat is the mood to go, my girl.
3. I have decided to give up trying to fit into clothes made for someone else - someone with a smaller waist than mine, with a better shoulder than mine, with anything different than mine....from now on, either I get clothes which are made for me, or I don't get them...or I get them made for me!!!
4. I have decided to give up fighting for the TV remote till the end of World Cup football...whenever that is:
The reason - isn't it obvious? When you can't win them....leave them....I mean wars and battles and fights.
5. I have decided to give up reading blogs/articles/books and watching movies which depress me, when I am already in a dumb mood, somewhat like when your lunch gets wet by rain water, and then you don't know whom to take out the anger on....yeah...somewhat like that.
6. I have finally decided to give up resistance to being branded - as a feminist, as a man-hater, as a lousy home maker, as a careerist, as a ...well...whatever...will go more into that later. But as of now, people can brand me anything they like, by people it includes, friends, not-friends, cousins, aunts, etc.
At least, there'll be less tension trying to explain.
7. I have decided to give up watching Ram Gopal Verma's movies:
The reason? Well, they get nowhere. They start off well, and the sets are very authentic, as well as the costume, etc., but the moment it comes to a story and the story being good enough for 1.5 to 2 hours....well, the less said, the better.
If I had been a guy, maybe I would have watched a few just to see a heroine in different stages of undress or passing off her undergarments as outdoor clothes but me being a straight woman, have no such intentions...on second thoughts, I never found other guys being much kicked about watching antara mali in 'those' types of clothes.
And no, I am not going to give up entertainment in the name of 'meaningful' cinema. Give me a 'Hum Hain Rahi Pyar ke' anytime compared to 'D' company.
Well, that's that...for the time being.
Anyone else has any other suggestions?
P.S. Just now I realized, that there's one more thing to give up:
8. I am going to give up trying to understand guys...well...yeah...honestly. I have been confused, irritated, angry and frustrated, and ultimately I have realized that it is no use trying to understand men at all...they are enigmas!!! So, peace!!!
posted by Aparna at 11:03 PM
14 Comments:
Awesome! Am inspired to give up a few things myself. How on earth do you make such a list. How long did it take you?
Actually it didn't take me long...but am wondering if I can add some more ;)
Judging from point 5, I can conclude that my blog doesn't depress you. Thanks!
LOLzzzzzzz
Well, some things are not worth the time n energy u spend debating / discussing / fighting. Eg: Today morning.
Impressive list ;) .
Me too felt many a time that debates like man Vs woman or south vs north lead nowhere.
All points look fine except RGV point :).I feel there is much more to his movies than Scantily dressed Antara .
Anyways was it Hum Hai Rahi Pyar ke movie or Aamir Khan that makes movie watchable for ya ;)
@Apoorv: You got a point there...maybe..but when I saw HHRPK, I wasn't an Aamir's fan then...I was more inclined towards Salman.
ahhh, I think I know what blog youre talking about. :)
@Megha: I think you do.
But it is not the posts, but the comments that follow :D
About the PS. Anything in particular that prompted that addendum?
No, it was just one point I overlooked...and then , it came to me all of a sudden like that 'bulb lighting up idea' when we girls were discussing teh guys in our life at lunch :D
Excellent!. Another thing that came to my mnind is to give up thinking why life does not progress as I want it to be and why always there are so many hurdles. Why everyone else seem to have what I want to( not that I don't have anything), why is it so that all the decisions I make are always wrong- always at the wrong time, why it seems to me that I am always late in taking right decisions...well the list would go on.. as you said.. it is best to stop it..
@Mitadi: :)
Lists are always easy to start and difficult to end and say , 'that's it'
hello, from your namesake
I like this post - it shows real maturity on your part. No one has ever convinced anyone else in a debate, I think. And in the end, talk is useless. People learn only by experiencing what the others are talking about.
Wise woman, you.
I know the blog you are referring to. Been there. Decided to give up reading it - too much aggravation - his language skills and some humor were what lured me into reading it, but his views are highly politically incorrect - reflect his youth, and lack of exposure to other segments of society and their opinions.
Very possible he comes from a traditional background.
It would be tiresome to have that kind of argument on every third post.
Apu
@Apu:
Thanks for dropping in :).
Do you have a blog of your own?
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